Just suppose

I’ve got a situation to share with you all.

Just suppose, for a moment, that you have two acquaintances, both female.

These are not people you count as friends, for very different reasons you have never been close to either of these people.

One person has always tried to be very friendly with you, and your inner sense tells you something is not quite right about this situation.

It’s not anything you can put your finger on, it’s more like the “uh-oh” feeling you get when things don’t feel right.

By some weird coincidences, you find out (by being in the wrong place at the wrong time, that’s all I can say right now) that neither person really likes you, laugh about you behind your back, etc.

What do you think about this?

Do you do anything?

Here’s what I have done:

–Pat myself on the back for listening to my gut, which never fails me, especially about the person who tries to be “my friend.”
–Maintain my cordial air when I happen to see one, or both,of these people, and then politely get as far away from both of them as I can, as fast as I can.

And, as I’m making my getaway, I wish them both the best.


But from a happy distance.

We are all different, you know, and we each have the right to make our lives in the way that suits each one of us.

What works for me may not work for you.

What about you?

What would YOU do?

About boomergrl49

Mom, Grandma, retired social worker, blogger. I love reading fiction of all kinds, and I'm also addicted to television (Netflix, Hulu, Acorn, Amazon video).

Posted on April 12, 2009, in relationships. Bookmark the permalink. 15 Comments.

  1. Gran, there is a child-like spirit in you that comes through in posts like this. And I use the term child-like in the best sense.We have all faced something similar or, if we haven’t, we will while on this earth.Your line about walking away and wishing them the best shows the heart I spoke about above.I live by an ideal in this and other areas of my life and that ideal was epitomized in the life of Jesus.Though it has often been one of the most difficult of all choices to make, I have sought to bless and pray for my “enemies” whether it has been a mere acquaintance who has mistreated me or my own mother.Blessings on you this Easter day, Gran…a day full of hope that enables me to believe and live beyond what is humanly possible.Love to you,Jlo


  2. Thanks, Jlo. I too have struggled so much, especially in the past few years, to let go of hate and just walk away. When I’m able to let go of the hate, I feel so much better, it’s a lightness that makes me feel light as air.Thanks for commenting, and sharing your story with me.It helps more than you can know.Happy Easter.


  3. I think what you did was best, there are people such as these everywhere and in all walks of life. And on the one you said that wanted to be overly friendly, was trying maybe to get close to you to spread more gossip. You were lucky in finding them out a lot of times we do not get the luxury of actually finding out just where some of our friends hearts and minds are, give yourself another pat on the back for that and remember or gut is seldom wrong.


  4. Thanks, Floyd. I guess as human beings we are all so different–I’m still not sure why the one person was trying to get close to me–thanks for your point of view!


  5. I’ve been realizing lately that when someone acts outside of higher principles or spiritual rules or Gods laws, however you want to phrase it, we’re not obliged to engage in that activity…we don’t need to address it, correct it, resolve it, think about it even: it’s simply THEIR issue, and to engage in it means engaging in their energy…and if their energy is outside God’s laws, then what is it? Nothin’ I wanna be involved in ๐Ÿ™‚


  6. And yeah…you did good, Gran..no doubt about it. But knowing in your heart *why* it’s so good and so right helps, doesn’t it? It did with me… we all know what’s good and what’s not, but sometimes we need to understand the essence, the foundation, the real meaning of that goodness, and not just do it “because it’s right.” But because it really really kicks ๐Ÿ™‚


  7. Good gracious, it’s good to have you back, Braja.You’ve said it so well; it feels so good to know the why, to feel the why. And it does kick to just let go ๐Ÿ™‚


  8. I agree B.. you did theright thing.. I would always go with that gut instinct and watch your back with those two. YOU just never know. Hope you will have no more trouble with either one. ๐Ÿ™‚ Ya know am no where NEAR EDMORE Mi but each time I arrive it says I came from there.. HOW ODD as I have never heard of the place.. hehe Hope your week goes well!! Take care ๐Ÿ™‚


  9. Hi Caroldee. How odd about the traffic feed thing…It’s not like the two people I wrote about are trouble, actually. I don’t see them that often, thank goodness ๐Ÿ™‚ I wish them both well, just from a distance ๐Ÿ™‚Take care, my dear.


  10. Shame on them, some folks just never seem to leave high school mentally.


  11. yeah, Debo ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope things are going well in the great state of Texas!


  12. I think you’re a very wise woman. Wish them well and let it go. To not do so would be letting them steal your serenity and nothing is worth that.

    I really like you!!! lol


  13. Thanks, Melissa. I like you too ๐Ÿ™‚


  14. Lots of nasty mean people breathing the same air as us, but they are furthest from my concern. I have my own life and family to love.

    Enjoy your life!


  15. Well said, eastcoast.


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